The Importance of Parents
Parents are necessary and very important. Your parenting role includes many sub-roles and many titles.
Life’s transitions affect all of us differently. Entering school, adolescence, high school or college, parental transfers from one state to another, career changes, meeting new people and other things all have profound effects on how we develop, grow and experience life. However, the difference is that you as parents are responsible for your children or child.
Unfortunately, there are no special guides to parenting that are in-grained in us except for nurturing and loving. We train as we go! Some children learn better in different methods or standards.
There is no way to see the complete role until you are in the role. Each child is different.
Love comes with the child, but training must come first by their parents or through other roles of authority such as grandparents, teachers, tutors, or whomever you recommend for your child. It could be through a mentor or some other organizations for expertise in a certain areas of training. When your child is born, and throughout their years of growth and learning, there is no turning back. Your importance increases with each year of growth and experience. You quickly realize the importance of parenting.
You are your child’s first role-model and you are their first, most important relationship. Many other people may love your child, yet no one is as connected to or invested in your child as you. This is true for both birth and adoptive parents. Parents cannot be replaced. A child who loses a parent spends his or her lifetime healing their loss. Frankly speaking, this example is true whenever you fulfill the duties of carrying, loving, and teaching your children. Remember, you are their role model for a lifetime.
As a mother of three, each was born with their own place in my life and each one is different. You have been given a gift that cannot be replaced no matter how loving or responsive other people might be, they can never replace parents. We may make a mistake and feel inadequate which causes mistakes, errors, sometime failure, but it never takes away or negates your importance. We learn from our mistakes. It helps us to grow.
For some, becoming a parent just happened, and for others it was a planned decision. Frankly, you are important to your children regardless of how they arrived. As a parent myself, I know you want the very best for your children and that children are concerned about their parents.
As parents, how often do you think about your importance to them?
For years, my husband and I traveled by car many times late at night, then one day we realized this was a concern to our children. We discontinued that habit because we wanted and needed to set the best example for our children. We changed. We did not want them being too concerned because we do not want them to ever be in harms way either.
“We must practice what we preach”.